Tall Girl Problems

I hate when really tall girls complain about shorter ladies talking about their height. First of all: is there a law or something stating that if you’re under 6ft you are not considered tall? No. So YOU girls shut the fuck up. I’m 5’11 but I can’t  stand this kind of thing. First of all, you don’t know what these girls go through and where they’re from. An asian girl, for example, is considered SUPER tall at 5’9. In MY country (Brazil), most part of the women are between 5’2 and 5’4. One of my best friends is 5’8 and people think she’s really tall as well. My cousin is 5’7 but when she wears 4 inches heels, everybody makes those kind of comments we’re all familiar with.

Yeah, you may be taller than all of us together, but this doesn’t mean these girls don’t have problems. Think about it: that teenage girl from Brazil who’s 6’9 would probably say you’re not that tall as well. She wouldn’t understand your complaints. At least you’re not almost 7ft, right?

Would you like that? I don’t think so.

Okayokayokayokayokay………So. I’ve been reading this site and I love hearing from all the tall ladies. I’m only slightly distressed hearing about the Tall Girlfriend, Short Boyfriend thing. I wanted to share my story because I feel like it could really help some ladies out.

I have ALWAYS been tall. When I was in kindergarten, I was a head taller than all of the kids in my class, and I was almost the same height as my teacher. At SIX. That’s actually when I really started noticing a difference. All of the kids wanted me to be the ‘mom’ when we played house. The girls told me I was like a boy because I was tall. And I know that kids, especially young kids, don’t always mean things in a cruel way, but it was still so hard for me, that I remember telling my parents that I wished I was short, because then I’d be a girl. My mother (5’9”) told me they just wished they were as tall as I was and that I shouldn’t let them bother me. My dad (6’6”) especially knew my pain.

I struggled so much through grade school and middle school and would wish nightly that I was shorter. I wouldn’t have to wear old lady clothes, I wouldn’t have to only wear flat shoes, and boys wouldn’t look at me like I was a freak just because of that extra few inches.

By the time I reached high school, one of two major things in my life happened. I saw a magazine photo shoot from ‘Girl’s Life’ magazine (oooold school, I know :D) that had models of all shapes and sizes. The last picture was of a girl who was 6’, 180lbs with flaming red curls, wearing a green dress with white tights and HEELS. And she. was. GORGEOUS. Her caption read “I dont care about my height. When I try to hide in my clothes, I just look awkward. When I wear the clothes I want, people mistake me for a model, and I love getting to wear heels all the time!” It really stuck with me and I started to really branch out with my wardrobe. I wore heels. I wore dresses. I wore shorts. I wore tights. I wore anything I wanted. And you know what? People noticed. In a GOOD way. I got compliments daily. Boys noticed me. Heck, GIRLS noticed me. I wasn’t just the tall girl anymore. I was the tall girl with some serious fashion sense.

That was around the time I started dating my [now ex] boyfriend, who was 6’2”. He was taller than me and that made me think ‘this could be it!’. Turns out no. I wasted 4 years on a guy that was taller than me, but a serious jerk. It wasn’t the only factor, but height really did play into why I stuck around for so long.

I started college and met a new boy. He was sweet, funny, and 6’. Now, this is technically taller than me, but you wouldn’t know it if you looked at us. If i wear any kind of shoe other than flip-flops around him, I’m taller. 

See?

So it was awkward. I was one of those girls that always said “I’ll never date a guy shorter than me! it would just be too weird!” While we were dating, that stuck out in my head. Holding hands was hard. We would get funny looks sometimes. “Are you guys the same height??” “Can you even wear heels when you’re with him?” The whole she-bang. I felt those insecurities coming back out until the second of those two things happened.

After being with him for almost a year, I made a comment about how I wished I were shorter. He said, “I don’t. I don’t have to bend over to kiss you”

BOOM. Done. Insecurities gone!

And now, seven years later, we’re married and I’m no longer worried about my height in any way.

I guess the long-winded moral of my story is, the right person will find you to be great, tall or no, and you shouldn’t let his height dictate YOUR happiness. Don’t let others make you feel weird, or bad about your height. Your height makes you who you are and more rightly, makes you BEAUTIFUL. 

I’ve always been very tall. I was always the tall girl in school; I hit 6’1” by the time I was 14. Being what I was told was “too tall for a girl”, meant a lot of nasty remarks and jokes about me. Needless to say, I was extremely uncomfortable with my height and tried everything I can to conceal my height. I even went to the extreme of slumping a lot!
Once I got to high school, the teasing went away and I was faced with a whole new set of problems. Shopping, sports, and dating. Before, when I went shopping I was only faced with finding clothes that were miraculously long enough. Now, I would go toto the mall with a gaggle of friends and have to sit by while they got to buy pretty high heels and the trendy brands. Although I thought they were gorgeous, I wouldn’t touch them with a 10 foot pole! So, that left me feeling left out of a lot of moments, even if I was there. Then at school, I was constantly recruited for basketball and volleyball. I swear I was asked at least once a day if I would join, but I preferred marching band! Nothing cooler than a 6’1” girl playing the french horn! Finally, in my set of high school problems, was the boys! I thought I was only allowed to date guys that were taller than me, which really narrowed the prospective candidates. It seems like every guy in high school who fit my height criteria, turned whichut to not be so nice to date…
Then at somesome point, towards the end of high school. I realized what a fool I had been. Why would I not embrace being tall? Tall women are glamorous, fierce, and all around awesome! So, I gave up on trying to look the same as everyone else and started to be the tall fierce woman that I wanted to be! I started wearing high heels when I wanted, and it felt awesome! There’s something awesome about towering abover everyone else in a pretty dress and high heels. I kept my head held heigh and finally started gaining the confidence I never had before! Once I became confident in myself, I realized I needed to stop dating jerks just because they were tall. So, I started dating whoever I wanted, regardless of height, as long as they were nice and I liked them.
It’s now a few years down the road; I’m 20, happy, confident, and married to a wonderful man who is a couple inches shorter than me. Whenever I hear stories from anyone about the hardships of being a tall girl, my heart goes out to them because I’ve been there. I’m not sure if anyone will ever read my storytory, but if you do and you can relate then please remember to always be confident in yourself. You’re all spectacular, wonderful, and beautiful tall women, and you should be proud of it!

It’s 2012.  We have woman CEO’s, woman senators, woman pastors, woman prime ministers, gay marriage, woman judges.  But GOD FORBID if a woman who is tall wears heels and towers over a man.  Good grief.  Where did the unwritten dating code ‘man taller than woman’ even come from?  Go ahead girls, if you like a shorter guy, break the rules.  Go for it.  I am 3 inches taller than my husband of 14 years.  I wear heels (and always have)  It doesn’t bother him.  

Hi beautifuls, I know I’ve posted before but I found it so baffling that we think height is a bad thing. Since when? Height is beauty believe it or not. Trust me, I have days where I wish I were 5’6 instead of 5’10/5’11 but I can’t have it that way. However, I digress. Just be this tall confident bad bitch. Seriously, the whole idea is confidence. You think someone can make a comment to get you down about your height when you look and feel confident? But the crazy part is, why is height such a bad thing? It shouldn’t ever be. A tall girl is something ugly? Since when? By who? There’s something so lovely when there’s more of a female. Not a stumpy 5’1 girl. I also dont understand why some tall girls get offended when someone says “Wow you’re so tall.” GET OVER YOURSELVES. It’s obviously something that individual hasn’t come across and they’re just surprised. That comment wont kill you. 90% of the time, they mean you no harm. It’s maybe even a way to get conversation going. Grow some balls dammit. I always receive that comment, especially when I’m in Italy because we all know Italians are short stumpy people. It’s never offended me, ever lol. You’re just pointing out something about me that you find unusual.

This obviously wont inspire some of you ladies or might give you confidence for a day or two. But it took me 19 years to become indifferent towards my height. I say indifferent because it doesn’t mean I have to love it, or hate it. It’s just what I am. Don’t you dare complain to your friends about your height issues. You’ll just give them the idea being tall is negative and further spread this “short girls are the best” business. I’d rather be 5’10/5’11 than 5’4 any day. Just focus on who you are, not how much of you there is. Meh.

Because of my height, all of my friends know that I have called an eternal shotgun on all car rides. It is only logical.

Them: How tall are you? 6’7??

Them: Do you play basketball??

Them: Do you run track???

Them: Do you play volleyball?

Them: Oh so you must be a model right

Them: Oh you’re not.. *insert awkward disappointed look* what a WASTE of height

Me: Sorry I wasn’t aware my body came with a terms of agreement  

I am 52 years old and 6’1”. I wouldn’t trade one inch of my height now. You wouldn’t believe how many women my age ask me for a “transplant” of a few inches of my legs. Hang in there, girls. Tall really IS beautiful. It’s powerful and memorable, too, especially in the business world. Stand up straight, throw those shoulders back and smile!

favorotesI woke up to a text from my tall best friend who I think is 5’10. She told me about how she found an anime that has a tall girl and a short guy. Its called Lovely Complex. I havent gotten a chance to watch it yet because the rest of my friends text message said to look up Tall Girl Problems. I was always a person who was againt dating a guy shorter than I and yes I admit, I even told my best friend that it would be weird if she was to actually date the boy she likes, who is shorter than her. After reading through all the problems and some of the posts from the tall girls (and even the tall guy) saying that even if they are tall, that shouldn’t bring us down, it should make us feel better. So were not models. Sure we don’t play sports. So were clumsy sometimes. Sure some guys are too short for us. But we can still embrace our height! Who care if we wear heels! They’re my favorite type of shoe! So thank you Tall Girl Problems. Ive always been self-concious about my height but ever since I read this, I feel so much better. Im Alyssa, i’m in the 10th grade this year and im 5’9 (ish). I am a tall girl :D

I’m 6’3” and have been since I was 12 years old, talk about awkward. Now I am 23 and I have zero problems attracting guys or making friends. The trick… Confidence. Yes I’m super tall, taller than the Average man but I’m damn proud of it, and it’s paying off :)